| If boredom is setting into your relationship and causing doldrums in your sex life, it's time to shed your inhibitions and get more experimental
While you may have already indulged in different kinds of love-making with your partner, it's important to ensure the right settings to make the most of a night of passion. Be it the bedroom ambiance, surrounding items, lighting, aroma or anything that helps boosting your sexual desire, the decor of the room must be in accordance with your mood and the kind of sex you want to indulge in. Marriage and relationship counselor Gitanjali Sharma elucidates, "Sex is a natural need for all human beings. But there has to be appropriate arousal for a night of passion and the environment, ambience and bedroom settings play a major role is stimulating your sexual hormones. Just like we eat when we are hungry, similarly, there has to be a sex drive and a physical desire to make you indulge in sex and it come from various things in the pleasure playground." Couples indulge in sex for various reasons. Some want to experiment and try out new things in bed, while others love seeing their partner experience heights of pleasure. There are others too who love pampering their partner through diverse forms of sex. Here are various settings that can enhance your sexual camaraderie. Create an innovative environment during experimental sex As the name suggests, an experiment signifies something creative and out-of-box, so it could be a wild sexual stint. Couples opting for experimental sex aim to bring back the excitement and lust filled initial-days of their relationship. No matter how long they've been into their relationship, there is a need to have an Earth-shattering sexual experience every once in a while. DO IT RIGHT : Dr Amita Mishra, a sex and relationship expert suggests, "When it's about being experimental, try out just about everything. From the sofa to the floor, living room to the kitchen, bathtub to the garden, let your imagination take over completely. Enacting a porn star or a pole dancer act could take your spouse by surprise. Having meals in a semi-clad state will ignite your partner's erotic side. Keep sexual props like whips, chains, pompoms and streamers handy to add to the mood." Pamper your beau during make-up sex Make-up sex is a quick and effective way to get rid of an ugly argument, so if you had a gut-wrenching fight with your spouse, there can be nothing better than indulging in a sexual reconciliation. While the act gives you several chances to say 'sorry' to your partner, don't forget the right ambiance is e a blessing in disguise. Not only it will make your partner feel pampered, but also let you gradually descend towards a sex romp. DO IT RIGHT : Marriage and relationship counselor Gitanjali Sharma adds, "Keep a nice musical show piece, preferably a couple doing ball dance, alongside the bed that makes a chiming sound to add to the soothing aroma that you wished to create. Also, a lavish chandelier placed right above your bed can create the right combination of light and shadow. Also, decorate the room with flowers, place some surprise gifts for your partner, use satin bed sheets, heart shaped pillows etc that create a perfect atmosphere that makes your partner forget the fight and enjoy the sexual gratification." |
Comfort zones for sex
That secret fetish
Most of us nurse hidden fetishes. A fetish is characterised as an obsession, not just something sexual that you are attracted towards.A fetish is characterised as an obsession, not just something sexual that you are attracted towards. (Getty Images)Sex expert Dr. Rajan Bhosle says, "Sexual fetishes are nothing more than unconventional, yet harmless sexual practices. There are many, which border on the unhealthy. One should understand that having a fetish is not abnormal, everyone has fetishes, but it's just that we nurture them within set limits. There are different degrees of fetishes that range from mild to extreme." He further goes to explain that if, "one is attracted to blondes that's one thing, but if you are unable to get aroused unless you're with a blonde, then you likely have a fetish". Fetish can be particular from individual to individual. They fall under three categories - media, form and animate. In the first category, a fetish is developed for a particular material with which one is obsessed with such as rubber, leather, latex, and silk. But with form fetish, it's the shape of the object that gives a high such as a woman's stilettoes, knee-high boots or lingerie. On the other hand, body parts like feet, hair, buttocks or breast are called "animate" fetishes. It's important to understand that fetish preferences differ from individual to individual. "Generally it's seen that a fetish is accompanied with certain feelings of guilt or shame. Try and seek other people who share the same sexual desires and practice it," opines sex expert Dev Karan. Some of the top fetishes that couples seem to posses: Body piercing : Ask the younger lot and body piercing seems to be a top fetish amongst them. Interior designer Priya Gill says, "A pierced body turns me on. It can be anything from belly buttons to tongues and eyebrows. Everyone should have at least one body piercing in "that" place to create a feeling of arousal". Dr Rajan Bhonsle puts in a word of caution saying, "One should be very careful as to where he has got the piercing done from. The area should be free from any kind of infection and kept clean. One should also try to sterilise the ornament they are wearing". Latex fetish : Men love material. The "bad" and "naughty" are always attractive. Model Rahul Mehra states, "My girlfriend's wardrobe has loads of garments in latex and leather. It's quite a turn on for me and gives me pleasure, making me more innovative in bed". Watching a woman move around in anything tight and shiny is a tease in itself. Dr Shekhar Shah says, "The hygiene factor is very important. Sweat blisters must be avoided. Signature stockings are common with women. Latex gear also acts a catalyst. Fetishes are, most of the times related to some object or palpable thing".
Kissing secrets revealed!
Kissing is probably one of the best things you can do with your lips. It's not just the most passionate way of getting close to your partner,
it's also something that enlightens your mood and adds zing to your love life.
So, what comes to your mind when you first think of kissing? A peck on the cheek or a passionate French kiss? Well, if you want to explore what turns on your mate or simply add creativity to your kissing techniques, here are some lip smacking ideas ...
Reverse lip kiss – Remember the sensuous kiss exchanged between Tobey Maguire and Kirsten Dunst in Spiderman ? You can re-create the sizzling kiss with your partner. Of course you can't hang upside down like the famed super hero, so kiss your partner when he/she is lying down or seated. Come from behind and have them tilt their head backwards. Lower down your head and gently kiss their lower lip and feel your partner breathe on your neck. Abhishek, who works with a software company in Mumbai says, "My girlfriend really took me by surprise when I was working on my laptop. She came from behind, tilted my head backwards and gave me a kiss upside-down while I could feel her hair tickle my neck. I must confess I was quite impressed with her initiative and it really turned me on."
Underwater kiss – Dive to the bottom of the swimming pool, embrace your lover under water and suck in as if you were sucking air from their mouth. Leave them gasping for breath just for a few seconds. By the time you run out of air, reach the top, breathe and get set for the act again. If you are a guy, just pull your babe up above the water, while remaining in the pool and gently caress her thighs while rolling your tongue around her navel to provide the ultimate erotic sensation. Ashish Singh (name changed on request) says, "I would love to lock lips with my girlfriend under water. I love water sports and I think it would just add to the sizzling underwater action. What can be more sensuous?"
Ring kiss – When you and your partner are sitting together on a couch or lazing in bed, gently hold his hand and start kissing. Then smoothly, suck a ring out of his finger with the help of your teeth. Roll your tongue and slide the ring slightly to hold it around your tongue. Then share a passionate kiss by rolling the tip of your tongue to trace his lips. Let him suck the ring from your tongue and you can try stealing it again, it will heat up the scene.
Foot kiss - This one's not just amorous, but also an erotic gesture. Gently move your fingers on his/her bare foot. It may tickle your partner initially, but relax and enjoy the sensations! Then, gently kiss her foot and suck her toes. You can make the act even more intense by rolling an ice cube on her foot as you gradually move the cube up her legs and then to her inner thighs. "My partner turns me on by massaging my foot. He rubs his thumbs in circular motions from the heel to the toe and then sucks my toes one by one. Some people think it's kinky, but you have to try it to believe it. It works for me and it's even more fun if you do it in the 69 position and face each other's feet," says newly married Meenakshi (name changed on request) .
Nip kiss - When you kiss your partner next time, gently nibble on his/her lips. Be careful not to bite too hard and hurt them though. While smooching on one's lips is enjoyable, use your imagination and try exploring other body parts as well. Nibbling on the neck, for instance, is a great turn on. If you do it well, this kiss ignites flames of passion that will arouse you to explore your beau's body further. Arvind (name changed on request) , who got married a year ago, says, "If I really want to drive my wife wild, nibbling is the best way to do so. It makes her squirm with desire. It is the best foreplay act and gets you in the mood for more action. Biting her gently at the right time and the right place just makes her scream for more."
Earlobe kiss - As the name suggests, gently sip and suck your partner's earlobe. Cuddle close to your sweetheart, bite gently to make him/her moan and whisper something naughty. Let him hear you breathe and feel your wet lips. This will surely make him want you more than ever. However, take extra care to avoid loud, sucking noises.
"My hubby simply loves it when I bite him on his earlobe. And if I say something wild or naughty during the act, it sets his mood right. Just telling him what exactly I want him to do to me...the dirtiest of things makes him long for more," says Suchita Mishra (name changed on request) from Pune.
  Kissing secrets revealed (Getty images) |
So, what comes to your mind when you first think of kissing? A peck on the cheek or a passionate French kiss? Well, if you want to explore what turns on your mate or simply add creativity to your kissing techniques, here are some lip smacking ideas ...
Reverse lip kiss – Remember the sensuous kiss exchanged between Tobey Maguire and Kirsten Dunst in Spiderman ? You can re-create the sizzling kiss with your partner. Of course you can't hang upside down like the famed super hero, so kiss your partner when he/she is lying down or seated. Come from behind and have them tilt their head backwards. Lower down your head and gently kiss their lower lip and feel your partner breathe on your neck. Abhishek, who works with a software company in Mumbai says, "My girlfriend really took me by surprise when I was working on my laptop. She came from behind, tilted my head backwards and gave me a kiss upside-down while I could feel her hair tickle my neck. I must confess I was quite impressed with her initiative and it really turned me on."
Underwater kiss – Dive to the bottom of the swimming pool, embrace your lover under water and suck in as if you were sucking air from their mouth. Leave them gasping for breath just for a few seconds. By the time you run out of air, reach the top, breathe and get set for the act again. If you are a guy, just pull your babe up above the water, while remaining in the pool and gently caress her thighs while rolling your tongue around her navel to provide the ultimate erotic sensation. Ashish Singh (name changed on request) says, "I would love to lock lips with my girlfriend under water. I love water sports and I think it would just add to the sizzling underwater action. What can be more sensuous?"
Ring kiss – When you and your partner are sitting together on a couch or lazing in bed, gently hold his hand and start kissing. Then smoothly, suck a ring out of his finger with the help of your teeth. Roll your tongue and slide the ring slightly to hold it around your tongue. Then share a passionate kiss by rolling the tip of your tongue to trace his lips. Let him suck the ring from your tongue and you can try stealing it again, it will heat up the scene.
Foot kiss - This one's not just amorous, but also an erotic gesture. Gently move your fingers on his/her bare foot. It may tickle your partner initially, but relax and enjoy the sensations! Then, gently kiss her foot and suck her toes. You can make the act even more intense by rolling an ice cube on her foot as you gradually move the cube up her legs and then to her inner thighs. "My partner turns me on by massaging my foot. He rubs his thumbs in circular motions from the heel to the toe and then sucks my toes one by one. Some people think it's kinky, but you have to try it to believe it. It works for me and it's even more fun if you do it in the 69 position and face each other's feet," says newly married Meenakshi (name changed on request) .
Nip kiss - When you kiss your partner next time, gently nibble on his/her lips. Be careful not to bite too hard and hurt them though. While smooching on one's lips is enjoyable, use your imagination and try exploring other body parts as well. Nibbling on the neck, for instance, is a great turn on. If you do it well, this kiss ignites flames of passion that will arouse you to explore your beau's body further. Arvind (name changed on request) , who got married a year ago, says, "If I really want to drive my wife wild, nibbling is the best way to do so. It makes her squirm with desire. It is the best foreplay act and gets you in the mood for more action. Biting her gently at the right time and the right place just makes her scream for more."
Earlobe kiss - As the name suggests, gently sip and suck your partner's earlobe. Cuddle close to your sweetheart, bite gently to make him/her moan and whisper something naughty. Let him hear you breathe and feel your wet lips. This will surely make him want you more than ever. However, take extra care to avoid loud, sucking noises.
"My hubby simply loves it when I bite him on his earlobe. And if I say something wild or naughty during the act, it sets his mood right. Just telling him what exactly I want him to do to me...the dirtiest of things makes him long for more," says Suchita Mishra (name changed on request) from Pune.
Oversized? Here's your guide to sexual bliss
Is your potbelly an obstruction during intimate moments with partner? Are thunder thighs causing discomfort in sexual pleasure, keeping you away
from a gratifying sex life?
If these worries hound you every time you gear up for a steamy sex session, then refer to our sex guide to help you out!
A recent study revealed that only one third of UK women belonging to size 16 have sex once in a week, compared to their size 8 counter parts who get lucky almost twice. One in every ten obese women reported about not having had sex for a year – because the thought of their partner seeing them naked harassed them mentally.
Though thin women are not always happy with their bodies, but in general they tend to be more confident in bed in comparison to their overweight counterparts, whose bedroom action is almost invaded by 'size' issues. Obesity is something, which your partner might not like, so it's justified for them to lose interest in sex.
Dr. Basheer Ahmad Roy, a Bangalore-based sex specialist states, "High obesity levels surely become a matter of concern that hinders a couple's sexual life. If you're fat, your partner will be less interested because he/she knows that sexual pleasure won't be as desired. At the same time, your physical appearance will make you hesitant and less confident, thus affecting your performance in bed."
If you are beautiful, fit and active you tend to feel confident – with or without clothes. But if you are obese, you remain conscious of your body appearance and fail to concentrate on the sexual act. Stating that it's all in the mind and there's nothing to be ashamed of, marriage and relationship counselor Geetanjali Sharma explains, "Obese people are not able to arouse and satisfy their partners and they get de-motivated in the act. It's the lack of self esteem that holds them back rather than the fact that your partner doesn't like your being fat."
The reasons behind low sex drive have often been linked to obesity. Agreeing to this, Dr Shivi Jaggi, a Delhi-based sexologist says, "Obese men face a reduced blood circulation and this obstructs proper erection. Also, social factors like physical looks, body shape etc., which attribute to your partner's interest in you, further affects your sexual experience."
Moreover, the problem of obesity kills the drive to experimentation in bed using newer techniques and positions. Body weight either makes foreplay tougher or doesn't let your partner enjoy the climax. Elucidating further, Chandigarh-based sex specialist Dr. Deepak Arora shares, "When you stick to the same postures time and again, with no scope of experimentation, boredom is obvious, which gradually mars pleasure, ultimately hitting the couple's sexual life. And with both partners being obese, enjoying the act becomes impossible for both."
Dr. Roy supports, "Sex is all about bodies getting in contact with each other. But when, obesity comes in the way of pleasure and sexual fantasies remain unfulfilled due to weighty issues, problems are ought to arise between a couple. For instance, a man may desire to lift his wife in his arms, but fails due to her excess weight. As for sex positions, obese people fail to innovate, thanks to their body shape and end up banking upon the good old missionary position."
 There's nothing to feel conscious of your curves between the sheets. (Getty Images) |
If these worries hound you every time you gear up for a steamy sex session, then refer to our sex guide to help you out!
A recent study revealed that only one third of UK women belonging to size 16 have sex once in a week, compared to their size 8 counter parts who get lucky almost twice. One in every ten obese women reported about not having had sex for a year – because the thought of their partner seeing them naked harassed them mentally.
Though thin women are not always happy with their bodies, but in general they tend to be more confident in bed in comparison to their overweight counterparts, whose bedroom action is almost invaded by 'size' issues. Obesity is something, which your partner might not like, so it's justified for them to lose interest in sex.
Dr. Basheer Ahmad Roy, a Bangalore-based sex specialist states, "High obesity levels surely become a matter of concern that hinders a couple's sexual life. If you're fat, your partner will be less interested because he/she knows that sexual pleasure won't be as desired. At the same time, your physical appearance will make you hesitant and less confident, thus affecting your performance in bed."
If you are beautiful, fit and active you tend to feel confident – with or without clothes. But if you are obese, you remain conscious of your body appearance and fail to concentrate on the sexual act. Stating that it's all in the mind and there's nothing to be ashamed of, marriage and relationship counselor Geetanjali Sharma explains, "Obese people are not able to arouse and satisfy their partners and they get de-motivated in the act. It's the lack of self esteem that holds them back rather than the fact that your partner doesn't like your being fat."
The reasons behind low sex drive have often been linked to obesity. Agreeing to this, Dr Shivi Jaggi, a Delhi-based sexologist says, "Obese men face a reduced blood circulation and this obstructs proper erection. Also, social factors like physical looks, body shape etc., which attribute to your partner's interest in you, further affects your sexual experience."
Moreover, the problem of obesity kills the drive to experimentation in bed using newer techniques and positions. Body weight either makes foreplay tougher or doesn't let your partner enjoy the climax. Elucidating further, Chandigarh-based sex specialist Dr. Deepak Arora shares, "When you stick to the same postures time and again, with no scope of experimentation, boredom is obvious, which gradually mars pleasure, ultimately hitting the couple's sexual life. And with both partners being obese, enjoying the act becomes impossible for both."
Dr. Roy supports, "Sex is all about bodies getting in contact with each other. But when, obesity comes in the way of pleasure and sexual fantasies remain unfulfilled due to weighty issues, problems are ought to arise between a couple. For instance, a man may desire to lift his wife in his arms, but fails due to her excess weight. As for sex positions, obese people fail to innovate, thanks to their body shape and end up banking upon the good old missionary position."
| It's time to shed all inhibitions and try these trouble-free tips that help you reinstate that lost
Dress to kill : If the problem with the man is arousal rather than erection, the lady can use her dressing style and sex appeal to add the punch. An element of mystery always excites men. So, so opt for some enticing lingerie and make undressing more pleasurable. Dr. Shivi Jaggi, supports, "Sexual clothing matters a lot for the partner's arousal. Oversize people are extra careful in their choices and opt for outfits that make them look slimmer. Also, it pays to know your partner's choice and then wear something you know he/she would love to see you in. Women can play around with sexy attires and attractive intimates, so that the anxiety of taking them off, even with a not-so-flattering body disappears." Take charge : Woo your man with a newfound confidence and forget being an odd lump-bump. Surprise him by initiating the action. Dr. Jaggi elaborates, "Even in a married couple, looks matter and physical appearance, at times, decides the rate of sexual pleasure. Obese women should forget their weighty inhibitions while making love. Don't shy away from being more active, taking charge, making naughty gestures, indulging in erotic fantasies or putting up a saucy strip show. All these acts will enhance your man's interest, hence shifting his focus away from your flabby body." Dim the lights : There's nothing to feel conscious of your curves between the sheets, but still most obese people get goose bumps at the thought of their partner seeing them naked in loud lighting. Dr. Deepak Arora suggests, "We don't suggest to a couple that they turn the lights completely on or off during a sexual session, but rather create a dim lighting effect. It will not only add to the pleasure, but will also let you enjoy your partner's expressions." Foreplay is important : Appetisers are always more delicious than the main course and when it comes to sex, foreplay is the main ingredient that can make up a perfect sex session. Be it thin or obese couples, foreplay should be as innovative as possible. "Couples should ideally spend the maximum time in foreplay with both partners participating equally. Good communication between partners becomes extremely crucial if either of the partners is overweight. Talking about weight issues openly helps in knowing your partner's likes and dislikes," suggests Dr. Arora. Celebrate your curves : Curves can also make you look beautiful and remember that men don't necessarily like a skinny partner in bed. Use that popping flab to arouse your man. Belly dancing can be a really good option and it will also help you shed some calories. Relationship counselor Geetanjali Sharma agrees, "Any form of dancing excites men and belly dance is one of the most sensuous acts that plus size women can opt for. Remember, men want their women to be active, aroused and free from apprehensions. So as long as you love your body and use it to tease your man, sexual pleasure will surely fall in place." Be curvy in your thoughts : Let your partner know that all you care about is – 'having a good time in bed'. Don't let the excess flab come in the way of intimacy. Get comfortable in your mind and this will automatically reflect in your performance. Geetanjali asserts, "Obese individuals are always shy and think about their partner's reactions towards their body, which affects their sexual life drastically. Rather concentrate more on things where you are better, such as being innovative in bed. Instead of focusing on your body, focus on your performance and sexual acts and have a positive mindset." |
9 mantras to reclaim your sex life
| If the credit crunch managed to limp your sex life last year, then here are nine tips from an expert to help restore those lost charms in
Dr. Ian Kerner, a New York City-based sex therapist, said that recession had taken its toll on people in general who were subsequently “having less sex”. "Fifty million people are stuck in a sex rut. The economy inhibits a person's libido because they feel stressed and depressed,” Fox News quoted Kerner as saying. The author of Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parent's Guide to Getting It on Again has proposed nine ways to help those looking to give a boost to their passion. Here are nine ways to reclaim your sex life: 1. Just go ahead with it: “It might sound silly, but just have more sex. Your mind has become habituated to not having sex, so it’s hard to break out of it. You have to reconnect.” 2. Connect with each other: “You can’t just turn sex on when it’s time to go to bed.You need to build that sense of connection." 3. Stay positive: “Studies show that for couples to boost their sex life, they have to be positive. It’s easy to go home and talk about mortgages and bills, but if it leads to a negative cycle of communication, figure out a positive form of communication.” 4. Prioritise your relationship: “Couples are spending more time on Facebook and blogs. The next thing you know it’s 11:30 p.m. and it’s too late for sex. There’s no urgent need to check your BlackBerry — your relationship has to be a priority.” 5. Adopt and maintain a healthy lifestyle: "It's easy to binge at the end of December with the holiday eating and drinking. Get healthy and remain healthy. It will increase your sex drive and exercise will boost your self-esteem, which is crucial to enjoying sex." 6. Reveal fantasies: “In sex, you often do the same things, rely on the same moves. Share a fantasy. Or, if you feel your partner is lacking in attentiveness, instead of criticising, express it in a sexy way.” 7. Lend a helping hand: “A lot of women aren’t interested in sex because they have other things on their minds like chores, dirty dishes and men can’t always appreciate that aspect. If men help and create an environment where women want to have sex, that’s really important.” 8. Be honest: “One of the benefits of being in a relationship is that sex isn’t perfect — guys are subject to their issues, women are subject to theirs. If in ’08 you were saying something didn’t matter, (maybe) it does in ’09. Sex changes from year to year and ’09 is a new year.” 9. Create the right environment, ‘the love nest’: “Put a little more energy into your surroundings. Create a surrounding that appeals to your senses.” |
Kiss-me-quick-Currier-Ives-1840s
"Kiss me quick", a humorous 1840's Currier and Ives print (152 Nassau Street, New York City) that would have been considered slightly naughty at the time... Caption: "Children, this is the third time within an hour that I have placed your hats properly on your heads. -- There!!"
Take your time with love
Lovemaking need not always be a loud, boiseterous affair. You can use the intimate time with your partner to develop a deeper bond in your
relationship emotionally. Here is our list of 7 lucky mantras...
A softer tone to your love life can actually develop your relationship, anchor you emotionally with your loved one and can even save your marriage suggest experts. While there is a lot of hype about having a rocking love life, it is quite clear that quality time is better than the amount of noise couples make in bed. Thus, we have a list of seven tips that would help you slow down the pace of action and in the process, lengthen the bond you share with your loved one.
Extend the time you give to foreplay
Developing a carnal connection is not necessarily about getting the insta-orgasm . It's about savouring every touch and sensation that magnifies the physical and emotional bond. According to Canadian sexologists, better foreplay has a bigger payoff than scoring an orgasm. The sexual tension of anticipation leads to a more intense orgasm. A 10 week schedule towards extending your foreplay can genuinely change your relationship for the better say the experts.
For instance, spending some time kissing and caressing creates a mutual stimulation that has a meditative quality, allowing one to zero in on each sensation. Another option is to treat someone to a tantalizing experience by touching him from head to toe. Becoming familiar with the details of his body lets you mesh on a higher sensual level suggest sexologists.
The spine is a highly recommended area for this exercise. You could let your hands glide down his spine or run your fingers along the crease of his upper thigh. Also let him navigate your erogenous zones. Uncovering pleasure points specific to your bodies is like a secret the two of you share, and it leads a deeper emotional bonding because you are choosing to expose your vulnerability, as he will too.
Breathe together
This may sound far fetched but breathing in unison can make you both feel completely connected . Says a Belgian sex expert: "A focus on the same rhythm can get you into a trancelike state. It takes you into a 'zone' where you're very aware of your guy and your external environment seems to fade into oblivion." Sex after all is a form of meditation. Explore this angle of sex.
To synchronize your breathing, get into a oneto-one body position, such as spooning or coital alignment. Or sit nose-to-nose with your legs wrapped around each other and your hands on each other's chests so you can feel your heartbeats . Then inhale and exhale, slowly and deliberately , paying special attention to your man's pace as you caress and kiss. Breathing in tandem can help your excitement levels rise at the same rate too and could be the beginning of a great night ahead.
Eyes wide open
As the outside world fades into oblivion, focus inward and stress on the senses. Gazing at your partner forces you to concentrate on each other. Many women feel isolated during sex because you both tend to become so caught up in your own physical pleasure that you don't really bother with eye contact. Making eye contact is a way to communicate since it bridges that gap and lets you really be aware of your man's presence.
Again, eye contact is not exactly staring. It is more like you're looking inside of him rather than just at him. Study his facial expression and try to imagine what he's thinking and feeling, especially when he nears orgasm. Locking each other's gaze at this most personal moment is also a way of building trust. It begins a new era of acceptance between you and your partner.
A whisper speaks louder
Over-the-top encounters come with exciting decibel levels, pleasurable screams and other dramatics. However, a whisper can speak much louder say the experts. A soft spoken 'I love you' on your man's ear (the ear by the way is a great erogenous zone) can do wonders. Affirm your love for your partner with words as you both move to a beautiful rhythm of love and longing. Experts suggest that words have the power to heal, to give your partner confidence and to develop a comfort zone inside the bedroom (and the brain)
Rest in the bed after
The act is not over when it's over. Resting in bed and cuddling next to your lover after orgasm is just as healthy suggest experts as opposed to turning over. No words are required at this stage but the feelingness of belonging to one another; of staying there for the other's sake suggest a non-selfish , non-hurried attitude which can be extremely heartwarming.
Love is a lullaby
Even after washing up and getting ready for bed, there is nothing like a soft gentle lullaby for your man. Soft soothing music or a romantic tune of his choice can create a lingering sensation of the experience. It is important that the experience or the feeling associated with it are prolonged to develop a deeper bond, and when words and silence have been exhausted let your stereo do the talking as your loved one falls into a dream space.
Ambience
On a final note, candles, aromatic oils and other bric-a-brac are not cliches: they can genuinely lead to a fine ambience towards a softer, more sensuous equation in the bedroom. Good luck!
 Take your time with love (Getty Images) |
A softer tone to your love life can actually develop your relationship, anchor you emotionally with your loved one and can even save your marriage suggest experts. While there is a lot of hype about having a rocking love life, it is quite clear that quality time is better than the amount of noise couples make in bed. Thus, we have a list of seven tips that would help you slow down the pace of action and in the process, lengthen the bond you share with your loved one.
Extend the time you give to foreplay
Developing a carnal connection is not necessarily about getting the insta-orgasm . It's about savouring every touch and sensation that magnifies the physical and emotional bond. According to Canadian sexologists, better foreplay has a bigger payoff than scoring an orgasm. The sexual tension of anticipation leads to a more intense orgasm. A 10 week schedule towards extending your foreplay can genuinely change your relationship for the better say the experts.
For instance, spending some time kissing and caressing creates a mutual stimulation that has a meditative quality, allowing one to zero in on each sensation. Another option is to treat someone to a tantalizing experience by touching him from head to toe. Becoming familiar with the details of his body lets you mesh on a higher sensual level suggest sexologists.
The spine is a highly recommended area for this exercise. You could let your hands glide down his spine or run your fingers along the crease of his upper thigh. Also let him navigate your erogenous zones. Uncovering pleasure points specific to your bodies is like a secret the two of you share, and it leads a deeper emotional bonding because you are choosing to expose your vulnerability, as he will too.
Breathe together
This may sound far fetched but breathing in unison can make you both feel completely connected . Says a Belgian sex expert: "A focus on the same rhythm can get you into a trancelike state. It takes you into a 'zone' where you're very aware of your guy and your external environment seems to fade into oblivion." Sex after all is a form of meditation. Explore this angle of sex.
To synchronize your breathing, get into a oneto-one body position, such as spooning or coital alignment. Or sit nose-to-nose with your legs wrapped around each other and your hands on each other's chests so you can feel your heartbeats . Then inhale and exhale, slowly and deliberately , paying special attention to your man's pace as you caress and kiss. Breathing in tandem can help your excitement levels rise at the same rate too and could be the beginning of a great night ahead.
Eyes wide open
As the outside world fades into oblivion, focus inward and stress on the senses. Gazing at your partner forces you to concentrate on each other. Many women feel isolated during sex because you both tend to become so caught up in your own physical pleasure that you don't really bother with eye contact. Making eye contact is a way to communicate since it bridges that gap and lets you really be aware of your man's presence.
Again, eye contact is not exactly staring. It is more like you're looking inside of him rather than just at him. Study his facial expression and try to imagine what he's thinking and feeling, especially when he nears orgasm. Locking each other's gaze at this most personal moment is also a way of building trust. It begins a new era of acceptance between you and your partner.
A whisper speaks louder
Over-the-top encounters come with exciting decibel levels, pleasurable screams and other dramatics. However, a whisper can speak much louder say the experts. A soft spoken 'I love you' on your man's ear (the ear by the way is a great erogenous zone) can do wonders. Affirm your love for your partner with words as you both move to a beautiful rhythm of love and longing. Experts suggest that words have the power to heal, to give your partner confidence and to develop a comfort zone inside the bedroom (and the brain)
Rest in the bed after
The act is not over when it's over. Resting in bed and cuddling next to your lover after orgasm is just as healthy suggest experts as opposed to turning over. No words are required at this stage but the feelingness of belonging to one another; of staying there for the other's sake suggest a non-selfish , non-hurried attitude which can be extremely heartwarming.
Love is a lullaby
Even after washing up and getting ready for bed, there is nothing like a soft gentle lullaby for your man. Soft soothing music or a romantic tune of his choice can create a lingering sensation of the experience. It is important that the experience or the feeling associated with it are prolonged to develop a deeper bond, and when words and silence have been exhausted let your stereo do the talking as your loved one falls into a dream space.
Ambience
On a final note, candles, aromatic oils and other bric-a-brac are not cliches: they can genuinely lead to a fine ambience towards a softer, more sensuous equation in the bedroom. Good luck!
Why don't women initiate?
"Though I love our image of the 'perfect couple', but if I read between the lines, may be I am
unsatisfied.
It's been three years, but I am still desperately waiting for the day when my lady love will take the sexual lead and surprise me with her moves. Many times, I thought of discussing it with her, but dropped the idea as she may find it derogatory. Though we share a great chemistry, be it in or outside the bedroom, still I crave for the day when she would make the first move," confesses Samrat Tripathi, a 29-year-old Delhi-based media person.
Samrat isn't the only one craving for his girl to initiate the action in bed. "Is it just me who wants sex?", "Am I failing to satisfy her?", "Is my technique wrong?", "Does she wish for more pampering and foreplay?" are some of the thoughts that keep haunting men. This thought process keeps them so occupied that most of the time they fail to see some of the very obvious reasons for their problem.
It takes no rocket science to understand your beloved's physical needs, you just need to be caring and sensitive to figure out what's stopping her from making the first move. Here are some of the most common reasons holding her back...
Will he respond?
Many women with fragile ego find it difficult to kick start the action in the bedroom, as the fear of rejection keeps hounding them.
Aarti Rawat, a call centre executive says, "I am not afraid of telling my boyfriend what I need from him, but something holds me back initiating sex. Guys are so complicated and it's difficult to understand their needs so I keep guessing what's on his mind. I can just give him subtle signals like rubbing my cheeks against his or a passionate kiss to reveal my innate desires, but most of the times he fails to understand my hidden passion within these moves. It obviously hurts me so, even if I want to, so I let him take the lead."
Expert speak: Dr Sunil Mittal, a relationship counselor suggests, "There is a very simple rule in love, leave your ego hassles on the other side of the door. It is not only women who are frightened of rejection, at times men also feel the same. So first of all, start responding to the hints that your partner is dropping for you. If she kisses you, then respond in an equally passionate way. Don't ignore her needs and cravings, even if you are very busy. Tell her you need some time if you are pre-occupied and let her feel you are intently listening to her desires. Tell her that you really love it when she makes the first move. It will definitely boost her confidence and her fear of rejection may disappear soon."
Do you really give her a chance?
Most women believe, men have sex on their mind all the time. Jyoti Gupta, a Mumbai-based HR
executive confesses, "I never have to worry about my sex life. My hubby doesn't even miss a single day without some sexual action. I enjoy getting intimate with him and I have no reason to worry about pleasing him because he's the one raring to go in bed. Sometimes, I feel that I take him for granted. I have seen so many friends of mine doing something or the other to seduce their guy and trying to get adventurous so as to boost his desire, but I never had the chance to do it as he is the one asking for it always. It does get boring at times."
Expert speak: Dr Himanshu Saxena, a relationship expert opines, "Men are more vocal about their sexual desires than women, that is one of the reasons they end up initiating sex almost always. Everybody loves to be on the receiving end and may be she doesn't mind it. So, if you want to turn the tables, then practice some self-control. Maybe for a couple of days, seduce her the way you always do. Wear the smell that she loves, give her a soothing massage, a luscious kiss, after you realize that she is getting turned on, gradually pull away. If you continue this for a few days, she might not be left with any option but to drag you to bed and take charge to sustain a night of pleasure."
He might make fun of me!
Some men are really critical when it comes to love-making and that is why their partners believe in just following the lead.
Sunaina Verma, a corporate communication manager with a firm adds, "I was seeing this guy for nearly two years. Though I was deeply in love with him, but he I felt his love-making skills were very amateurish. He was so focused on what he wanted that he usually used to forget my comfort levels. Therefore, to tell him what I wanted, I decided to take the lead one day. I had read that guys love being kissed all over while making out, but the trick didn't work for me. After 15-20 minutes of my hard work he said, 'don't treat me like candy, its no fun.' It was humiliating for me."
Expert speak: Dr Sameer Parekh, a noted psychiatrist says, "Everybody has their own comfort zones and pleasure points. If you do not like your beloved's love-making techniques, rather than making fun of her, tell her what makes you go week in the knees. Make love to her the way you want her to treat you. Criticizing her will only hurt and will not help either of you. If you don't behave properly, she might not ever dare to try anything new to please you."
Baby it hurts
The definition of enjoyment might be completely different for you and your wife.
Nita Sahni, a homemaker informs, "I got married a couple of months back. It almost took us a month for me to get completely at ease with my hubby. As a result of my fear of physical proximity, I used to withdraw from my hubby. I noticed a great deal of disappointment in my hubby because of that. I decided to keep silent about my discomfort and just go ahead with sex mechanically."
Expert speak: "Encountering pain during intercourse is the most common problem that most of couples face, but finding a solution is necessary. Sometimes the reason can be just change in sexual behavior or inadequate foreplay. But in some cases, you may have to seek medical help. Your partner might be suffering from a sexually transmitted disease. Therefore act responsibly and take note of what's bothering your better half," tells Dr Saxena.
Not tonight honey!
How often do you hear this? But merely blaming your partner for never being in the mood is
not fair.
Sheela Oberoi, a school teacher says, "I am in my mid 30s, have a family to look after and a job that consumes nearly ten hours everyday. When I go back to my bedroom at 11 o'clock in the night, I am left with no energy to make hot love. May be my age has also affected my sex drive. Many times my hubby complains about it, but there is nothing I am able to do about my low sex drive."
Expert speak: "If your partner's interest in sex has dropped significantly, try to make make an effort to find out what is it that is responsible for the same. If it is just stress and fatigue, then you should find out ways to relive the mental tension. Be it a surprise vacation, an erotic massage or just an elongated conversation at a lavish dinner - try out diverse ways to take your lover's mind off the nitty gritties of life. And never forget to experiment in bed," suggests Dr Parekh.
She thinks it's a taboo
Do guys really think highly of girls who take the lead in sex? Many girls grow up with this question in their mind.
Sawati Arora, a bank employee says, "I am getting married in a few months, but I have no plans to take the lead in bed with my future hubby. My friends have made me believe that if I do so, he may think that I have had some past experience and may doubt my loyalty. According to the normal perception, guys are supposed to initiate things in bed and I plan to stick to the same."
Expert speak: Dr Mittal says, "Most of new age women also have this fact imprinted in their mind somewhere. So you should make all possible efforts to erase these doubts from her mind forever. On a date, try to talk to her about what turns her on and how eagerly you want her to an efforts to pamper you in bed. She may take sometime to get okay with the idea, but if you try to make her comfortable, soon she will express her desires in every possible way."
Employing the subtle tricks of seduction, patience and some sexperiment you are likely to get what you have been vying for.
 Why women take backseat in sex? (Getty Images) |
It's been three years, but I am still desperately waiting for the day when my lady love will take the sexual lead and surprise me with her moves. Many times, I thought of discussing it with her, but dropped the idea as she may find it derogatory. Though we share a great chemistry, be it in or outside the bedroom, still I crave for the day when she would make the first move," confesses Samrat Tripathi, a 29-year-old Delhi-based media person.
Samrat isn't the only one craving for his girl to initiate the action in bed. "Is it just me who wants sex?", "Am I failing to satisfy her?", "Is my technique wrong?", "Does she wish for more pampering and foreplay?" are some of the thoughts that keep haunting men. This thought process keeps them so occupied that most of the time they fail to see some of the very obvious reasons for their problem.
It takes no rocket science to understand your beloved's physical needs, you just need to be caring and sensitive to figure out what's stopping her from making the first move. Here are some of the most common reasons holding her back...
Will he respond?
Many women with fragile ego find it difficult to kick start the action in the bedroom, as the fear of rejection keeps hounding them.
Aarti Rawat, a call centre executive says, "I am not afraid of telling my boyfriend what I need from him, but something holds me back initiating sex. Guys are so complicated and it's difficult to understand their needs so I keep guessing what's on his mind. I can just give him subtle signals like rubbing my cheeks against his or a passionate kiss to reveal my innate desires, but most of the times he fails to understand my hidden passion within these moves. It obviously hurts me so, even if I want to, so I let him take the lead."
Expert speak: Dr Sunil Mittal, a relationship counselor suggests, "There is a very simple rule in love, leave your ego hassles on the other side of the door. It is not only women who are frightened of rejection, at times men also feel the same. So first of all, start responding to the hints that your partner is dropping for you. If she kisses you, then respond in an equally passionate way. Don't ignore her needs and cravings, even if you are very busy. Tell her you need some time if you are pre-occupied and let her feel you are intently listening to her desires. Tell her that you really love it when she makes the first move. It will definitely boost her confidence and her fear of rejection may disappear soon."
Do you really give her a chance?
Most women believe, men have sex on their mind all the time. Jyoti Gupta, a Mumbai-based HR
Why women take backseat in sex? (Getty Images) |
Expert speak: Dr Himanshu Saxena, a relationship expert opines, "Men are more vocal about their sexual desires than women, that is one of the reasons they end up initiating sex almost always. Everybody loves to be on the receiving end and may be she doesn't mind it. So, if you want to turn the tables, then practice some self-control. Maybe for a couple of days, seduce her the way you always do. Wear the smell that she loves, give her a soothing massage, a luscious kiss, after you realize that she is getting turned on, gradually pull away. If you continue this for a few days, she might not be left with any option but to drag you to bed and take charge to sustain a night of pleasure."
He might make fun of me!
Some men are really critical when it comes to love-making and that is why their partners believe in just following the lead.
Sunaina Verma, a corporate communication manager with a firm adds, "I was seeing this guy for nearly two years. Though I was deeply in love with him, but he I felt his love-making skills were very amateurish. He was so focused on what he wanted that he usually used to forget my comfort levels. Therefore, to tell him what I wanted, I decided to take the lead one day. I had read that guys love being kissed all over while making out, but the trick didn't work for me. After 15-20 minutes of my hard work he said, 'don't treat me like candy, its no fun.' It was humiliating for me."
Expert speak: Dr Sameer Parekh, a noted psychiatrist says, "Everybody has their own comfort zones and pleasure points. If you do not like your beloved's love-making techniques, rather than making fun of her, tell her what makes you go week in the knees. Make love to her the way you want her to treat you. Criticizing her will only hurt and will not help either of you. If you don't behave properly, she might not ever dare to try anything new to please you."
Baby it hurts
The definition of enjoyment might be completely different for you and your wife.
Nita Sahni, a homemaker informs, "I got married a couple of months back. It almost took us a month for me to get completely at ease with my hubby. As a result of my fear of physical proximity, I used to withdraw from my hubby. I noticed a great deal of disappointment in my hubby because of that. I decided to keep silent about my discomfort and just go ahead with sex mechanically."
Expert speak: "Encountering pain during intercourse is the most common problem that most of couples face, but finding a solution is necessary. Sometimes the reason can be just change in sexual behavior or inadequate foreplay. But in some cases, you may have to seek medical help. Your partner might be suffering from a sexually transmitted disease. Therefore act responsibly and take note of what's bothering your better half," tells Dr Saxena.
Not tonight honey!
How often do you hear this? But merely blaming your partner for never being in the mood is
Why women take backseat in sex? (Getty Images) |
Sheela Oberoi, a school teacher says, "I am in my mid 30s, have a family to look after and a job that consumes nearly ten hours everyday. When I go back to my bedroom at 11 o'clock in the night, I am left with no energy to make hot love. May be my age has also affected my sex drive. Many times my hubby complains about it, but there is nothing I am able to do about my low sex drive."
Expert speak: "If your partner's interest in sex has dropped significantly, try to make make an effort to find out what is it that is responsible for the same. If it is just stress and fatigue, then you should find out ways to relive the mental tension. Be it a surprise vacation, an erotic massage or just an elongated conversation at a lavish dinner - try out diverse ways to take your lover's mind off the nitty gritties of life. And never forget to experiment in bed," suggests Dr Parekh.
She thinks it's a taboo
Do guys really think highly of girls who take the lead in sex? Many girls grow up with this question in their mind.
Sawati Arora, a bank employee says, "I am getting married in a few months, but I have no plans to take the lead in bed with my future hubby. My friends have made me believe that if I do so, he may think that I have had some past experience and may doubt my loyalty. According to the normal perception, guys are supposed to initiate things in bed and I plan to stick to the same."
Expert speak: Dr Mittal says, "Most of new age women also have this fact imprinted in their mind somewhere. So you should make all possible efforts to erase these doubts from her mind forever. On a date, try to talk to her about what turns her on and how eagerly you want her to an efforts to pamper you in bed. She may take sometime to get okay with the idea, but if you try to make her comfortable, soon she will express her desires in every possible way."
Employing the subtle tricks of seduction, patience and some sexperiment you are likely to get what you have been vying for.
Mind set: What are you worth?
A Greek king once asked Solon, the renowned lawmaker, “Tell me, have I had a good life?” Solon replied: “No one
The point that the jurist was making was that no life could be considered either happy or sad while that life was still continuing because a sudden reversal of fortune could, overnight, transform happiness into sorrow or sorrow into happiness. The same holds true for financial fortune as well. As any good finance manager will tell you, all wealth is notional until you cash it in. For example, if you own shares or property, the value of these is only in the mind. You derive no immediate actual benefit from it. The value only gets actualized when you sell the property or shares and convert these into cash and exchange the cash for goods and services. Had you held on to these assets without cashing them in, their value would have always remained purely theoretical. They could have either gained or lost but without affecting the material quality of your life in any way. It is only when you cash in assets and convert them into money their value is actualized. However, even this cash value is relative. First of all it is relative to individual status. For instance, a cash realization of say Rs 50,000 would be very significant and substantially change the lifestyle of someone whose net asset value was Rs 1 lakh. But an infusion of Rs 50,000 in cash would make no real difference to someone whose NAV (net asset value) was a crore, ten crore or one hundred crores of rupees. This is not all. A lakhpati in the 1950s, for instance, was considered a wealthy person indeed. Today, many young IIM graduates are snapped up in jobs which start them on a salary of Rs 1 lakh-plus per month. Yet their sense of achievement or level of contentment might be at great variance with those of the previous generation who might have started with only a fraction of the amount of what youngsters in the same peer group earn today, and yet they probably experienced a far higher degree of fulfilment. Money and wealth are not absolutes. They belong to the realm of relativity. Just as to a six-foot tall person someone who is of average height of five feet six inches is a ‘shorty’, but would be considered tall by someone who is four feet ten inches, there is no real person who is absolutely rich but is rich or not rich only in comparison to someone else. Which is why we have these voyeuristic “richie rich” lists grading individuals in terms of their guesstimated wealth. Such lists of course give you a distorted picture because to use the phrase of Jean Paul Getty who in the 1970s was considered one of the richest individuals in the world: “A billion isn’t just what it used to be.” It’s not just that inflation debases currency. Technological, scientific and medical progress also alters the concept of wealth. For example, in Akbar’s time a heart surgery would have been out of the question even for the great Mughal himself. In the 1960s, a well-heeled, adequately insured person could easily afford such a procedure. Today such surgery is within reach of the middle class. Much the same can be said for goods and services as diverse as foreign travel, long distance communication, sanitary fittings and climate control systems. Once we establish that profit and loss are part of the same process and actually not just two sides of the coin but often the same side of the coin, we’ll begin to put the current economic downturn into its proper perspective. Even in the grip of this financial crisis the world, by and large, and most, if not all the individuals in it, are richer by far than they have ever been before in terms of access to food, shelter, medicare and other amenities of life. This is what we need to bear in mind and not lose heart because someone tells us that Anil Ambani has developed a huge hole in his pocket where a fortune used to be. He is reported to have lost $30 billion in 2008 on account of sliding markets and is being described as topper in the list of ‘billionaire blowups’ of the year — in less than a year of being feted as the biggest ‘gainer’ in the world. But Anil isn’t really poorer by so many thousands of crores any more than he is suddenly shorter by so many inches. Because, since wealth, like height, is not an absolute and can only be gauged in comparison to someone or something else, Anil’s so-called loss is compensated by the fact that his peer group has equally lost. If everyone is made financially “shorter” by six inches, everyone ends up being of the same economic stature. What is truth and what is untruth? Philosophers say that there is no such thing as an untruth because no truth is absolute. There are as many truths as there are perspectives. And every one of them could be right. To the host, the bottle is halfempty whereas to the guest, it is halffull. Both are right, of course. Fortune and misfortune, loss and gain, they're not permanent states; neither is existence permanent. And going by the Anekantvad school of thought, existence itself has many sides; what we get out of it is what we make of it for truth is relative to the perspective. So when things look bleak and you feel that the future holds nothing but ruin, remember Solon who saw that both sorrow and happiness are notional values — as are the financial ratings of an individual’s wealth on a “richie rich” list like that of Forbes that described Anil as the world’s biggest gainer before dubbing him as the world’s biggest loser even before the year ran out. | |
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Eight ways to a woman's heart
You've known her for long enough, been on several dates, long drives and candlelit dinners that are not new anymore. But when it comes to taking
So, what should you do that lets your love interest know what's exactly on your mind without having to spill the beans to her? Answers relationship expert, Arvinder Kaur, "As goes the old adage 'actions speak louder than words' when it comes to winning your dream woman." So, here are some real life tips to help you make your way into your lady love's heart and leaving her crave for more... Start with being chivalrous A common mistake that most men make is expecting to get a woman and explore her all at once! The truth is that by doing so, they would simply scare her off. To begin with, it is the art of touching a woman that matters most. Win her over it in a way that she gradually gets comfortable with your touch. You can begin by offering her your arm while walking down the street or gently touching her back as you open the door for her. Arpit Kaushik (name changed on request), 34, a manager with a multi national company tells us his mantra to win a woman's heart. "I have dated at least four women since the time I was in college. One thing that I've learnt from my experience is that they pay a lot of attention to good manners and chivalry. They are not too comfortable with just about any acquaintance touching their body. So, you need to take it really slow. Once they are convinced that you respect them and value their consent before making a physical gesture, they'll trust you and your touch." Agreeing with Kaushik, Naina Awasthi (name changed on request), a marketing professional adds, "Women certainly have a sense of judgment when it comes to a man touching her. I would certainly not appreciate a person who I am not comfortable with to kiss me or take me to bed right away. Women like guys who take their time getting to know her mind first before graduating to the next level." The whispering game Why not be different when it comes to making the first move? Instead of kissing her right on her lips, try sharing a secret. "When whispering sweet nothings to your girl, speak in a sexy way as women tend to pay more attention to your tone rather than what you say. Deepen your voice, speak slowly and with conviction. Take care not to make it too dramatic," suggests Sunil Garg, an expert on sex-related issues. Mohit Malviya (name changed on request), 29, who works with a call centre in Gurgaon adds, "My girlfriend loves me whispering in her ear. It really turns her on. I think most women like men who are expressive and generous with compliments. So, I always make it a point to tease my girl by whispering something like, 'You look sexy tonight' or 'Want to go back home?' if we are at a party. It works for me." "Ears are an erogenous part of the female body. Murmured words have a greater impact than a high-pitched or loud voice. A soft and subtle voice is a sure shot way to turn on a woman," explains Garg.
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Top ten sex romps
Are you always complaining that your sex life is running out of steam? Well, what’s stopping you from getting adventurous and innovative?
Charge up your sex life using this list of the 10 craziest places to fool around...or you could get inspired and think of a few of your own!
1. On the couch: After the bed, the couch in the living room is screaming for attention. And the best part...it’s comfy too. The cushions work as a support system to get those curves and arches to enjoy the perfect moves, while the lack of space will keep up the intimacy levels. Want some more action? Put on a wild flick on video and you have a perfect mood maker!
Word of caution: Watch out your moves, going out of control is injurious...for the couch of course!
2. In the bathtub: Things can get real hot even in a cool bath tub. For the ultimate romantic experience, arrange for a bubble bath with aromatic rose petals and passion perfume. Add some mood lighting, splash a few drops of ‘ylang ylang’ essential oil and be certain that the sensuous experiment will lead to some supah hot sex.
Word of caution: Check out the water temperature, you don’t want to end up with painful blisters or a frozen lover...isn’t?
3. In the kitchen: Be it 91/2 Weeks or Fatal Attraction , the kitchen has borne witness to quite a number of sexapades. The sturdy surfaces and shelves offer great support, especially for stand-up acts, while the feeling of being at an unconventional place pumps up the excitement to newer heights. And how can you miss the yummy treats your kitchen is loaded with? Eat them, but off each other’s hot bods. Think chocolate, cream, jams and jellies!
Word of caution: Know the stuff you are eating and applying...some edibles are good only to eat. So watch out for allergies!
4. In the pool: Though not many are privileged to have one in the confines of their home, if you are one of the lucky few, make the most of it. Challenge your swimming skills and get under for into some underwater escapades. Who said that the inflatable water turtle is meant only for tanning, use it for some steamy adventure...ride it together and get a new high!
Word of caution: You need not be swimming champs, but fairly decent floating skills are definitely expected to get into the water-y fun.
5. In the car: Yes it’s crammed, but it’s cosy too. A quickie in the backseat can rekindle the excitement that you felt during your heady college days. Put on some romantic retro tracks and switch on the AC. Don’t fret, it won’t cool down the passion. When the place is different, the position can’t be a drab. It’s tough to adjust facing each other, but turning the world around can definitely help...hope you got the clue!
Word of caution: Just be careful where you park...you don’t want to get busted!
6. In the dressing room: How about catching her unawares in the dressing room of a store? Sounds dangerous but thrilling too! The fear of getting caught will only add to the sensual experience, while the lack of time is perfect to give you a never before quickie. Thinking comfort? Sorry! All you have is a stool...let him stand as you take charge!
Word of caution: Making noise is not allowed here and do take care of hidden cameras and key-holes.
7. The stairs: If you are thinking they can be a pain to one’s body, think again, as they can be adventurous too. After all, they can give you those highs and lows, especially when the girl is comparatively short.
Word of caution: Don’t get really aggressive if getting cramps in your lower back is not on your mind.
8. On the roof : Yes, this can be a great playground; the gentle moonlight, a cool breeze to caress your passionate entwinings. Pep it up with some paper lamps or scented candles and light music, which will just add to the mood. You have all the space to set the ball rolling...so go ahead and explore her contours under a starry sky.
Word of caution: No physical risks are involved...but just take care of peeping Toms around.
9. In a sleeping bag: Nothing could bring you as close as that sleeping bag that’s meant for a single person and is loaded with two! Why not get into some naughty action and add to a fun-filled camping trip? Instead of the normal position, turn around and have some fun from behind. Talk about kinky fantasies!
Word of caution: Zip the bag properly, you don’t want end up killing insects in the mid of the act.
10. On a plane: You can try the toilet and if that’s too cramped, the seat in a Business or First class cabin. Some airliners with long-haul flights now boast of recliner seats that go as flat as a bed. Take a flight of fantasy.
Word of caution: Don’t try it if you already have flight phobia and take care of people lining-up outside the loo.
 In the kitchen (Getty Images) |
1. On the couch: After the bed, the couch in the living room is screaming for attention. And the best part...it’s comfy too. The cushions work as a support system to get those curves and arches to enjoy the perfect moves, while the lack of space will keep up the intimacy levels. Want some more action? Put on a wild flick on video and you have a perfect mood maker!
Word of caution: Watch out your moves, going out of control is injurious...for the couch of course!
2. In the bathtub: Things can get real hot even in a cool bath tub. For the ultimate romantic experience, arrange for a bubble bath with aromatic rose petals and passion perfume. Add some mood lighting, splash a few drops of ‘ylang ylang’ essential oil and be certain that the sensuous experiment will lead to some supah hot sex.
Word of caution: Check out the water temperature, you don’t want to end up with painful blisters or a frozen lover...isn’t?
3. In the kitchen: Be it 91/2 Weeks or Fatal Attraction , the kitchen has borne witness to quite a number of sexapades. The sturdy surfaces and shelves offer great support, especially for stand-up acts, while the feeling of being at an unconventional place pumps up the excitement to newer heights. And how can you miss the yummy treats your kitchen is loaded with? Eat them, but off each other’s hot bods. Think chocolate, cream, jams and jellies!
Word of caution: Know the stuff you are eating and applying...some edibles are good only to eat. So watch out for allergies!
4. In the pool: Though not many are privileged to have one in the confines of their home, if you are one of the lucky few, make the most of it. Challenge your swimming skills and get under for into some underwater escapades. Who said that the inflatable water turtle is meant only for tanning, use it for some steamy adventure...ride it together and get a new high!
Word of caution: You need not be swimming champs, but fairly decent floating skills are definitely expected to get into the water-y fun.
5. In the car: Yes it’s crammed, but it’s cosy too. A quickie in the backseat can rekindle the excitement that you felt during your heady college days. Put on some romantic retro tracks and switch on the AC. Don’t fret, it won’t cool down the passion. When the place is different, the position can’t be a drab. It’s tough to adjust facing each other, but turning the world around can definitely help...hope you got the clue!
Word of caution: Just be careful where you park...you don’t want to get busted!
6. In the dressing room: How about catching her unawares in the dressing room of a store? Sounds dangerous but thrilling too! The fear of getting caught will only add to the sensual experience, while the lack of time is perfect to give you a never before quickie. Thinking comfort? Sorry! All you have is a stool...let him stand as you take charge!
Word of caution: Making noise is not allowed here and do take care of hidden cameras and key-holes.
7. The stairs: If you are thinking they can be a pain to one’s body, think again, as they can be adventurous too. After all, they can give you those highs and lows, especially when the girl is comparatively short.
Word of caution: Don’t get really aggressive if getting cramps in your lower back is not on your mind.
8. On the roof : Yes, this can be a great playground; the gentle moonlight, a cool breeze to caress your passionate entwinings. Pep it up with some paper lamps or scented candles and light music, which will just add to the mood. You have all the space to set the ball rolling...so go ahead and explore her contours under a starry sky.
Word of caution: No physical risks are involved...but just take care of peeping Toms around.
9. In a sleeping bag: Nothing could bring you as close as that sleeping bag that’s meant for a single person and is loaded with two! Why not get into some naughty action and add to a fun-filled camping trip? Instead of the normal position, turn around and have some fun from behind. Talk about kinky fantasies!
Word of caution: Zip the bag properly, you don’t want end up killing insects in the mid of the act.
10. On a plane: You can try the toilet and if that’s too cramped, the seat in a Business or First class cabin. Some airliners with long-haul flights now boast of recliner seats that go as flat as a bed. Take a flight of fantasy.
Word of caution: Don’t try it if you already have flight phobia and take care of people lining-up outside the loo.
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